Tuesday, April 12, 2016

Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month

April is National Sexual Assault Awareness and Prevention Month. As a trauma specialist, I work with many persons (men and women) who have been the victims of sexual assault in clearing that trauma in a painless way without retraumatizing them through the course of therapy using Rapid Resolution Therapy®, a method that is quick and lasting.

Here is a smattering of articles of how you can be of service this month:
4 Ways to Support a Friend who has experienced sexual assault by RAINN
Resources for raising awareness, getting help by Stop Street Harrassment
Participate in Denim Day on 4/27
Participate in Take Back the Night in your community or campus

If you or someone you know has been the victim of sexual assault, either recently, or not recently, get or suggest help to overcome any issues surrounding the trauma.

Not sure if there's trauma? Can you fill in these blanks:
Every time                 , I              .

This could be:
Every time I see a man with a beard, I get nervous.
Every time it thunders, I feel afraid.
Every time I am home alone, I get scared.
Every time I travel, I feel shaky in the dark hours.

Good therapy clears up all the associated negative feelings for good. If a therapist does not have an end date or end goal for you that they have clearly expressed and reiterated during your therapy, change therapists. Good therapy is focused on the end goal of resolving the problem. RRT® generally only takes a handful of sessions.

Call for an appointment to resolve your issues, or refer a friend at 954-612-9553.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.

Wednesday, March 23, 2016

Pain Blocking in 4 Hours

I dislike the expression "it's all in your head" because it presumes that what you are experiencing is less than real. Pain is not "unreal" or "in your head," but instead the relay system travels through your brain, like a train station, and changes can be made at that station.

Living without pain is possible and even a little easy.

There is a 4-point approach to pain blocking that I have used successfully with clients and with myself. It takes approximately 4 hours over 3 sessions.

  • Session 1: Intake, 1 hour. Taking of complete physical and psychiatric history.
  • Session 2: Hypnotherapy, 2 hours. Teaching of methods and tools and some practice. Best if pain is minimal to moderate; not acute.
  • Session 3: Follow up, 1 hour. Anything missed can be fixed, teaching of additional tools, fixing and honing skills for best use.

Pain blocking:

  1. Teach color visualization and breathing skill for use with acute pain.
  2. Education about and visualization of pain's messenger.
  3. Education and role play of pain blocking techniques.
  4. Visualization and role play of potential pain situation.

Speaking to my own experiences, I have overcome chronic lower back pain and have been tattooed without pain.

I herniated disc L4-5, in the lower back, and was in daily pain for years until hypnotherapy changed that for me. It was slightly less after my session, and got better and better as I utilized the techniques. After a few weeks, I was needing the techniques less, to where I was forgetting to use them for days or weeks at a time. After a couple of months, at this point I was not using the techniques at all, I cleaned out the garage and was taking a shower afterward, saying to myself "the hot water will loosen up my back" when I realized my back wasn't even tight. Such a task would have normally laid me out for at least several hours if not several days, but I wasn't even sore! That's when the skeptic in me believed completely and I realized this was a gift to be shared. I honed my techniques until they were tight and solid and began working on pain with clients.

The next thing for myself was a 10-hour tattoo (over 3 sessions). I wanted to be present and engaged, not "drifted away" like many of the available hypnotherapy pain CDs make available. I know that pain is just a message and that there is no need for the message if you are getting voluntarily "injured" as through tattooing, so I needed to dismiss the messenger and block the pain as it recurred. It was an active process, but I shed no tears, and felt almost no pain in any of the process.

I also have a jaw problem called TMJ, so that going to the dentist caused me terrible headaches for a day after a cleaning, but that is no longer an issue.
My jaw is not fixed, but I can control the relay system where the pain flows through, and shut it off there so that I do not experience any of it.

If you have: migraines, chronic pain, TMJ, back pain, an upcoming surgery, an upcoming dental procedure, upcoming allergy testing, have to administer shots for diabetes or conception, or any other pain or procedure you would rather not be bothered by, call to book your intake appointment at 954-612-9553.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.

Saturday, February 13, 2016

Pin Trading Bingo

One thing I enjoy is having a little free fun while on vacation. Since I live not too far from Orlando, I visit the theme parks several times per year. I love to go to Disney World with my husband and friends and trade pins at the parks and the hotels.

Pin trading is absolutely free (though the pins you start with are at a cost) and is one of the delights of visiting the parks to me. Since I have several friends who also enjoy pin trading, I put together a friendly competition for us that you are also welcome to use. You could even use it by yourself, if your friends aren't traders, or you're making a solo adventure to the area.

Here are the rules:

  1. Save the 3 images below to your cell phone.
  2. Bring a set of 10 "trader" pins for each person who will be playing as well as a lanyard.*
  3. Have each person pick a number between 1 and 30. Note: If you are playing with children who will need help with the game, have everyone pick a number in the same bracket (1-10 or 11-20 or 21-30) so you are all on the same card and don't have to keep switching between cards to assist them. 
  4. To be fair, have someone else choose your number, since you have seen the cards. 
  5. With your group, trade away any pins you have that meet your win criteria.
  6. Trade pins all day at the parks, hotels, and gift shops! Keep any pins that you love. Track your collection at PinPics.
  7. At the end of the day, compare what you have collected against your card and see if you have met your win-condition of all 5 pins. Whomever in your group has done so is the winner! Award a special prize - maybe pick out a pin for them from a shop, gift them with a new lanyard for next time, or the losers buy a round of cocoa for the winners. 

You may play as cut-throat or friendly as you choose. The rules are written in such a way as to be interpretive. For instance, when it says Chip & Dale, will you accept either character, or does it have to be the pair of them? Decide in advance, and cut the kids some slack. After all, it's just for fun.

Share your pictures, if you like. Who won?

*A note on traders & lanyards: You can purchase trading pins on eBay or Amazon for a fair price. You can also buy them at the parks or the Disney Store, but you will spend more this way. Lanyard can be purchased at the parks or Disney Store, or you can buy them where keys are made, such as the Home Depot or Lowe's. To be extra special, you can order custom lanyards from places like Lindsay's Lanyards, but these take a little extra time.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.

Monday, December 28, 2015

DIY Guess Who IRL Friends Edition

Finished makeover
A group of my friends does "board game nights" which is exactly what you think it is, but for up to 30 people. I decided to make a gift of the game Guess Who with the most common attendees as a gift for the hostess this year. I can tell you that it went over beautifully, beyond my expectations, and that it was played for several hours that night. Everyone was delighted to see themselves and their friends and which pictures I used.

If you'd like to make a Guess Who board such as this, here are the steps I took:

I bought a Guess who game from 1986 off of eBay. It has all the board pieces, all the pegs, and all but one of the guess cards. You might use one of the new ones that still in stores, but I don't think they look as nice. Cost: $26 after shipping, 30 minutes.

Look how Anglo it used to be!
It was a labor of love! Since this was a secret project (I'm not even posting this until after the gift has been given), I had to choose the persons to be featured and find photos of them myself. Facebook was an excellent resource. I used the Game Night group's members list to narrow the featured persons down to 24. This was no easy task as some people attend more often than others, some haven't come in awhile, but used to come often, some just started coming but are coming consistently. I hope no one is offended to have been excluded, but I had to use my best judgment. I went through the profile pictures of each of the 24 persons and looked for one that:  1) showed their face clearly 2) was not too close-up 3) was at least kind of flattering (I wouldn't want anyone embarrassed by the picture I chose, but I figured that if it was their profile picture at one point, it had to be a picture they liked of themselves), and 4) was interesting or humorous. Cost: 2 hours.

New and Improved Guess Who, IRL Friends Edition

Then came resizing the images. I have no skill in this area, so it took me much longer than it should have, poking around in Paint. The final images need to be 1 1/8" wide by 1 3/4" tall, including the name at the bottom. Move the resized images to layout on 3 images that are 4"6" so you can print them like proper photos. I used CVS to print them in seconds, but you might use your photo printer and skip that step. Make 4 copies of each; you only need 3 copies, but you're sure to make at least one error, so get an extra set. Cost: $6, 4 hours.

Cut out the images and adhere to the face cards in the game, aligning the top edge, and to the guess cards covering the existing image as completely as possible. I used scrapbook photo adhesive squares that I already owned. Cost: 1.5 hours.

As an extra precaution to make sure they last a good long time, take all of the cards to Kinkos and get them laminated. My Kinkos took about a day to turn this around, and they would not photocopy a single card so I could replace the one that was missing because of copyright issues, so I chose to just leave one person out; I assume no one will notice, but if they do, that's the reason. Cut the cards out yourself. The cost for cutting is well more than the cost of laminating and isn't worth the expense, in my opinion. Cost: $52, 2 hours.

Place them in their respective boards and provide a copy of the instructions, or make your own.

Total hours spent: 10
Total cost spent: $84

If you make one, please show me in the comments with a link/image! 

Here's how to make one for Doctor Who by @KarenKavett, which inspired this project from the very beginning!

Here's one for Harry Potter using the newer style boards.

If you Google "Guess Who custom" you'll find templates and tutorials for the newer style boards, but I prefer the older style.

*Guess Who is owned by Milton Bradley and this version is not for sale, but is a vanity project for personal use only. No profit is made or attempted based on the original work, retained under copyright, of Milton Bradley.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.

Monday, December 7, 2015

Reframing to Regain Faith

I recently worked with a Catholic woman in her 40s who felt that her history of serial monogamy had ruined her desire of dating in the future because it was in the way of her relationship with God. She felt that her four 5-year relationships were "failed" as they were all ended, and she did not know if she would or should ever date again as a result. She was erroneously linking past relationship with future relationships as if a pattern existed, and that it was a repetitive fractal.

We began with reframing the thought of "failed" versus "ended." There were good things about the relationships that made each of them last for many years. There were also things about them that were not so good that made them worth ending. I challenged her belief that just because something doesn't last forever, it does not mean it was failed. After all, she does not have the same job now that she had in high school. She agreed and it clicked. 

She responded "it must be the Catholic guilt." I asked what was "Catholic" about guilt? She told me that, in her understanding, you are supposed to be with someone forever. I asked if she meant her first crush or the boy she lost her virginity to? She laughed again. "Well, neither..."

I asked her about her concept of God in order for her to envision her deity exactly as was true to her faith, and let that model do the reflection for her. I wanted to know what he/she looked like, wore, got around, and did for fun? She said that he wears Birkenstocks and rides a bicycle, and probably has flowers in his beard. She laughed and smiled; you could see the spiritual connection, strong in that moment. I asked about his personality - was he forgiving and kind or vengeful and smiting - as certainly both versions exist in Catholicism? She said "he is hip, but not a hipster." I asked if he is with the times and gets what modern life is like, and she said he changes with the times. 

"So then, to him, does he get what dating is like?" She said he does.
"Does he think all first dates should be marriages?" She said he'd find that ridiculous, that you have to try people out for awhile to see what they are like and if they will be a good fit. "And if they are going to be a long-term good fit? Say, longer than the relationships you've had thus far? Even if it takes a few tries, even in your 40s?" She said he does.

"So you were guilty over what, again?" Nothing but smiles.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.

Tuesday, December 1, 2015

Pink Elephant - Guest Blog by Julie Davis

It's not that bad.
I'm busy.
S/he'll handle it.
It'll go away.
It's not my problem.
I can't do anything about it.
What's that thing in the middle of your life that you keep tripping over but refuse to deal with?
This week, I invite you to face it...
...from afar: Observe and collect data.  What is the pink elephant? When/where/how does it get in the way? What is your contribution for it being there? What would today be like if it disappeared? How do you get rid of it? Do you want to?
...up close: Bring it up to others who are tripping over it, too (whether they know it or not). "Hey, I think there is a pink elephant in the room that I/we keep tripping over and I'd like to talk about that, is this a good time?" If met with defensiveness, avoidance or confusion, you are talking to a pink elephant (not useful) and might need to move to the next step.
...head on"I respect your interest in living with a pink elephant in the room. I'm not interested in that, however, and will be [over there]. If you are interested in having a collaborative discussion on how to remove and live without this pink elephant let me know. Otherwise, I'll be [over there].
Ps. If you are buried up to the eyeballs in pink dung, please call for help to get shoveled out FIRST.

Julie Davis, LMFT
Licensed Marriage Family Therapist 
Certified Rapid Resolution Therapist 704-807-1101, appointments available in California, New York, & North Carolina eMailWebsiteSubscribe to weekly article

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on TwitterFacebook, and Google+. Sign up for the e-newsletter HERE.

Sunday, November 22, 2015

Playlist of Songs for Two Rooms and a Boom

As you may or may not know, in addition to owning Clear Mind Group, I also co-own the board game production company Butter Knife Concepts (Facebook, Twitter). As such, today's blog is about board games.

Two Rooms and a Boom is a party game for 6-30 persons (15-20 is ideal, in my opinion). Each round is timed. You can download their official timers HERE, but I thought a playlist may be more fun. I don't think the rounds need to be exactly as in the instructions, so an extra few seconds for your favorite songs won't make a bit of difference.

Here's a huge list with many genres including "boom" that my group started when we played this game last time. Did I miss anything, or did you find a broken link? Please leave it in the comments.

Disclaimer: Official links were used whenever they could be found. Many songs contain graphic language.

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