Imagine you went to the doctor's office and were sitting in the waiting room. Near your chair is a table with a variety of magazines upon it. You look at the magazines and pick up one that looks as if it may be interesting to you. Opening it up, you flip through past some photos and articles that don't interest you and eventually land on something that does. You look at the pictures and read the article and you think it was pleasant. You did not write the article, nor did you take the photos, nor work for that magazine. You have no personal investment in what was said, or how, or why. What does that article say about you? Nothing. It is simply an article that happened to be in your path that you happened to find interesting.
So it is with the comments of others. What someone else feels, thinks, or says has everything to do with him or her and nothing to do with you. Even though their comment may be directed at you, or even about you, without their frame of reference, it would be completely different. He or she speaks from that point of view, which is a reflection on him/her and not a reflection of you.