Thursday, August 30, 2012
Alternative Relationships
Threesomes? Swingers? One of my interesting niches is counseling alternative lifestyles.
Not every relationship consists of 2 partners. Sometimes there are 2 partners and a regular playmate, or 3 partners (triad), or polygamy or polyandry, or any combination you can think of, really. Something different works for everyone. And these situations can be more complicated than those involving only 2 persons - which are often complicated enough to start with!
If you are thinking of engaging in an alternative lifestyle for the first time, see me to smooth out some bumps in the road you may have overlooked or help you set the parameters that keep your relationship as the primary objective and avoid future complications.
If you are engaged in an alternative lifestyle and having an issue, see me for counseling without judgement or any need to explain why you have the relationship you do.
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Friday, August 24, 2012
Verbal Deescalation
Here are some simple and basic techniques for deescalation:
- Talk in a calm manner that does not demean or belittle the person.
- Keep your voice even and speak a little softer than you usually would.
- Use their first name; this keeps them grounded to you and the moment.
- Choose words that are short and simple.
- Nod and be agreeable, but not pandering.
- Be vague instead of saying "no." Think of the movie The Negotiator.
- Work with the person, as best you can, and offer to help find a satisfying resolution.
- Stay until the problem is resolved.
- Be aware until the person has fully left the vicinity.
If the person you are dealing with has mental health issues (and there is no way you would know), these things may potentially deescalate a very bad situation and may help to stabilize the individual so they can be further processed by an authority figure.
Some states are requesting that police officers go through a 40-hour deescalation training, but it is not mandatory. Read an article on how this may have saved the life of a mentally ill man in Pennsylvania recently in the San Francisco Chronicler.
If you know someone often on the verge of angry outbursts, consider referring them for anger management. I counsel anger management for teens and adults, individually and in groups through a 10-week curriculum. Call for a consultation 954-612-9553.
Wednesday, August 1, 2012
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