Friday, September 27, 2013

Good Kids: Yes, Even Yours

Avoid arguments with your child and encourage compliance by scaling the number of choices down by the age and stage of your child. For children under 10, 2 options will be sufficient. Lay out tomorrow’s clothes and ask, “Would you rather wear the brown pants or the green ones?” As your child ages, so do the decisions. “Would you rather have the Spiderman backpack or the Dora one?”

Set a pattern for narrowing things down to 2 choices and choosing between them. This helps to avoid arguments such as “I want them all” when he or she knows you will only allow a choice of 2, and then only 1 of those 2 items. You can counter with, “These are all great ideas for your friend’s birthday gift. Narrow it down to 2 and I can help you choose between them.” And then help him or her decide with a statement such as “Those are both great gifts for your friend’s birthday! Which one do you think he would like better?”

As your child becomes a preteen and a teenager and wants to do more things for him or herself, continue limiting choices in the pattern you have already set by saying things like, “You may attend the party. Would you rather have us pick you up or will you get a ride home?” And continue that narrowing process as you help him or her pick a college by asking if he or she would rather be in-state or out-of-state, in a cold climate or a warm climate, at a party school or a serious one, at a school where friends will be attending or on his or her own, in the dorms or in an apartment? This process is a lifelong skill to narrow options until a satisfactory choice is made.
           
Author and psychologist Wendy Mogel writes, “Creativity blossoms when it faces limits. A sonnet is fourteen lines, a haiku just three. When water is allowed to sprinkle it loses pressure, but when it is channeled through a hose the flow is more powerful.”8

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Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter and Facebook.

Friday, September 20, 2013

Temporary States

Right now, my house has ants. They're tiny and seemingly everywhere. They are incredibly pesky. I'm also moving in a couple of weeks, so having an exterminator out or laying bait traps seems pointless. This is a temporary state. As annoying as I find these ants, who ruined my box of cereal this morning and cause me to have to wipe up around the cat's dishes several times daily, they are a temporary state and we can put up with anything for a little while.

The nice thing about life is that all the bothersome parts are also just temporary states. If there is something about your own behavior or thoughts that you don't like, you can change it. If there is something about your work, your home, your social circle, or an ant problem, "this too shall pass." We can put up with anything for a little while.

Persevere the little things. Fix the big things. You've got this.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter and Facebook.

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Restful Nights with Self-Hypnosis

Everyone has those nights where you wake up and can't get back to sleep, or can't seem to fall asleep even though you might feel tired. If this happens more than once a month, you may have categorical sleep problems. Here are ways to combat restlessness:

  1. Schedule  Go to bed at the same time every night, even weekends. You'll only have to do this as long as it takes for your body to learn the routine. This could mean as little as a few weeks or as long as a year; your mileage may vary.
  2. Routine  Do things to unwind before bedtime every night. Have a cup of decaffeinated tea, a warm shower, read, or do whatever it is that puts away today's stressors.
  3. Eat Well and Exercise Daily  Taking care of your body and expending unused calories will help your nervous system to regulate your body and make you tired.
  4. Self Hypnosis  Come see me and I'll teach you a technique that you can use at home to put yourself to sleep or back to sleep that takes just a few moments and requires nothing more than your own mind.


Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter and Facebook.