Tuesday, December 31, 2013

A Therapist's Resolutions

Everyone is reflecting this time of year and thinking of the year that's passed and the future to come. People are setting (hopefully reasonable) resolutions for themselves for the next year and celebrating successes.

This year's successes have included:

  • The publishing of my second book, Bubble Wrap Your Kids, a parenting guide for the prevention of childhood trauma
  • Some added success in marketing my practice including joining a mastermind group. Said mastermind group is also planning travelling 2-day presentations for next year. 
  • I bought and renovated a house this year, which has been expensive. 
  • I've also begun teaching college this year, which has been interesting. 
  • Some of you know I also started another business this year wherein I'm producing a game that should be available in just a few months in physical (dice) form and an app. 

Lots of busy-making things, all of which I'm proud of and require my continued nurturing.

In the next year, I resolve to work weekly on the following goals:

  1. Be available to friends and family and reach out to those I don't see as often.
  2. Be present. 
  3. Be mindful of diet/exercise and doing what my body needs.
  4. Manage time cautiously and waste a little less during my set work hours. This will help me to meet my deadlines and not feel stress from being rushed.
  5. Put energy toward 2 more books (one on RRT® and therapy and one on etiquette in the modern age - send me your suggestions/comments/questions).
  6. Spend time growing my practice including doing a pro bono project.
  7. Give more presentations and do more public speaking.
  8. Produce the game and keep working on other games - there are a few in progress. 
  9. Pay off the debt to the house and do additional house projects. Spend mindfully.
  10. Spend some time on Twitter for my businesses. 

I hope our resolutions overlap and our combined energy expands to fuel our mutual transformations! Have a prosperous new year.

To support my various projects, follow me at:
Clear Mind Group, Facebook & Twitter, and refer your friends/coworkers/family
Butter Knife Concepts, Facebook & Twitter
Amazon
Email your questions or thoughts on etiquette or on RRT therapy

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter and Facebook. Subscribe on the right under Follow by Email for the weekly blog delivered directly to you.

Wednesday, November 6, 2013

Enjoy the Now

This is becoming a theme in the world around me. I'm noticing so many people - on their cell phones, on their computers, working, feeding the machine - instead of living.

We get a short time to be alive. We get to meet all sorts of interesting people and filter out those we aren't into and keep those we really like to stay in our lives. We get to be exposed to all sorts of things and filter out those things we're not into to keep the things we dig. Let's do that stuff together. Let's share the stuff we dig with the people we like. Let's do that every day!

Let's not hashtag out lives away.

I was at Universal Studios last weekend, grateful to be taken along for free on my husband's company trip. We left our cell phones in the hotel room and talked to one another in line. We people-watched, made up stories about the relationships of others that we saw, rode rides, talked about life, and generally just enjoyed each other's company.

We saw ton's of people on their cell phones and it grated on the both of us - both of us are technophiles, I should mention; I have 3 Twitter accounts and am no stranger to the amazing wonders of technology. But you're on vacation; enjoy it. Don't #vacation #rollercoasters #havingagreattime. Actually do that stuff. Talk about it later.

Enjoy the now. There is nothing more.

Friday, October 18, 2013

Living in the Now

I was at a hockey game last week and there were two little girls in the row ahead of me. One was there with family and was was the friend. I'm going to guess they were about 9 years old. Both girls had on their team hats. At one point, the friend spent about 15 minutes fixing her hair, fixing her hat, and taking photos of her self until she got one she liked. She then posted it to Facebook with "I'm at the hockey game!"

Indeed, she was physically at the hockey game. But was she really at the hockey game? She didn't see those 15 minutes of play. She wasn't enjoying being at the game, or even with her friend and her friend's family. I'd venture to guess she didn't even enjoy her personal photo shoot but rather it seemed time that was simply gone. She was creating her highlight reel for others, but there's no value in that.

Your highlight reel is what it is. If professional athletes were playing for their highlight reels, their attention would never be on the game, but on how they look to the cameras. That would make for bad sports. Living for your highlight reel makes for bad life.

Be. Be where you are. Do what you do. Enjoy this moment; the next is not promised.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter and Facebook. Subscribe on the right under Follow by Email for the weekly blog delivered directly to you.

Friday, September 20, 2013

Temporary States

Right now, my house has ants. They're tiny and seemingly everywhere. They are incredibly pesky. I'm also moving in a couple of weeks, so having an exterminator out or laying bait traps seems pointless. This is a temporary state. As annoying as I find these ants, who ruined my box of cereal this morning and cause me to have to wipe up around the cat's dishes several times daily, they are a temporary state and we can put up with anything for a little while.

The nice thing about life is that all the bothersome parts are also just temporary states. If there is something about your own behavior or thoughts that you don't like, you can change it. If there is something about your work, your home, your social circle, or an ant problem, "this too shall pass." We can put up with anything for a little while.

Persevere the little things. Fix the big things. You've got this.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter and Facebook.

Wednesday, September 11, 2013

Restful Nights with Self-Hypnosis

Everyone has those nights where you wake up and can't get back to sleep, or can't seem to fall asleep even though you might feel tired. If this happens more than once a month, you may have categorical sleep problems. Here are ways to combat restlessness:

  1. Schedule  Go to bed at the same time every night, even weekends. You'll only have to do this as long as it takes for your body to learn the routine. This could mean as little as a few weeks or as long as a year; your mileage may vary.
  2. Routine  Do things to unwind before bedtime every night. Have a cup of decaffeinated tea, a warm shower, read, or do whatever it is that puts away today's stressors.
  3. Eat Well and Exercise Daily  Taking care of your body and expending unused calories will help your nervous system to regulate your body and make you tired.
  4. Self Hypnosis  Come see me and I'll teach you a technique that you can use at home to put yourself to sleep or back to sleep that takes just a few moments and requires nothing more than your own mind.


Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter and Facebook.

Thursday, August 15, 2013

Bubble Wrap Your Kids

Bubble Wrap Your Kids, a parenting guide for the prevention of childhood trauma is now available at Amazon. Buy it here.

This book makes a great gift for new parents or growing or blended families. Advice is from birth through the teen years and fits with any parenting style; any parent with children at home will benefit from reading Bubble Wrap Your Kids. Amazon allows you to ship gift copies to additional addresses at no additional charge, so include any friend or family member who has kids in your shopping and help prevent a niece or nephew from harm!

Publishing a book is like birthing a baby. There's a lot of gestation that goes into the writing. There's resting and thinking and worrying and fussing over little details. There's joy and a feeling of accomplishment over achieving new stages. And then the labor of publishing itself, difficult and full of anticipation and eager waiting. And then, you have it in your hands, your work over months and months, produced, and ready to share with the world. And there's even a feeling of emptiness, of "Oh. What do I do next?" 

And what I will do next is a book on changing corporate culture: making your company one where employees are glad to go each day. After telling myself to take the rest of August off, I woke up the other morning with an outline in my head and had to start writing. If you have article or book suggestions or just want to include your input, email me.

I will update you when a Kindle edition of Bubble Wrap Your Kids is available, but it won't be for awhile.

Wednesday, August 7, 2013

Building Resliency

mini kiss roses
photo by Autumn Hahn ©2003
I want each person to be fine no matter what happens in their life. I want everyone to have solid ground under his or her feet and to say "okay, that was a trial. What's next?" and to be able to face the next thing with determination and ferocity. As my fellow therapist and friend Tara says, we're creating warriors.

Life will never be simple and easy where only good things happen and all is perfect all the time. That'd be boring anyhow and no one would have growth or know how far they'd come. Prepare for reality - that sometimes there will be manure and sometimes there will be flowers - and that flowers are stronger and brighter for the manure.

How do we do this? Master the following three skills from an RRT practitioner:
  1. Clear past trauma  The things that have happened to drop manure into your life happen suddenly, oftentimes, and these sudden dumps (if you'll pardon the pun) can cause you to become stuck and weighed down. Clearing these events frees up that stuck energy to fuel you forward. Progressing with all manner of wonder isn't fully functional until this step is done. That's why all the talk-therapy in the world still leave people with crummy memories and weeping when the dredge that stuff up. Rapid Resolution Therapy® is the process many of us great therapists use to clear the old debris so you can resume planting flowers.
  2. Live in this moment  If you have depression, you're living in the past, thinking of what was and could have been or should have been. This is fruitless without a time machine, and I'd even say fruitless with a time machine as we learn and grow from our mistakes. If you have anxiety, you're living in the future, thinking of what might be and what should be or what could be. This is also fruitless as we can't change or even predict with any certainty what will happen. Some people, with certain gifts, can glimpse the future; but even then, we have the ability to change things. Living in the present moment is a skill akin to meditation, and is in the teachings of every religion. Being present means knowing that you are safe and fine and that your mind and body are responding appropriately to the situation. This may not be true and may need adjusting. 
  3. Dismiss pop culture's idea of self esteem  Self esteem is being absolutely fine with you, despite and including all of your imperfections of body and disposition. This is not automatic. I will never ask you to look in a mirror and tell yourself absolutely anything as I feel your time is valuable and I'd rather you be doing something fun. If a depressed person looks in the mirror and says 10 times (100 times, 10 billion times) "I am happy," that person will be no more happy than before. There's a mismatch between truth and speech and your mind knows that and will believe truth. I will never ask you to say "I'm made of balloons" because you're not! That's what pop culture says about self esteem: that it is valuable and necessary and saying it makes it so. I call shenanigans on that. However, you can learn to be perfectly imperfect and fine with you, all of you, at this moment in time.
These techniques are effective for children and adults and are part of the bullying group I run for ages 10-18. Hold your head up and be uniquely you by unleashing your inner warrior.


Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter and Facebook.

Rapid Resolution Therapy® and Rapid Trauma Resolution® were developed and founded by Dr. Jon Connelly, LCSW, PhD. More information is available at www.cleartrauma.com and www.rapidresolutiontherapy.com. 

Friday, August 2, 2013

Cloudy to Clear: Out-of-Town Special

How many years have you been living with trauma, guilt, grief, anxiety, or depression? Are you ready to get
past it and live the life you imagine for yourself: free of pain and worry, feeling light and relieved? Cloudy-to-Clear makes this possible!

The fastest way to get over a trauma, anxiety or panic attack, guilt and shame, grief or loss, and substance abuse is Rapid Resolution Therapy®. This treatment utilizes metaphor, storytelling, laughter, and hypnosis in a skillfully combined way to produce immediate relief of symptoms and permanent change in the way memory is stored.

Autumn Hahn, licensed mental health counselor, certified clinical hypnotherapist, and trauma specialist practices RRT in Weston, Florida, just a short drive from Fort Lauderdale. If you do not live locally, you can still get your issues cleared by her in a convenient and effective manner. Cloudy-to-Clear allows clients to fly into Fort Lauderdale airport and book a hotel for just 3 nights. Mrs. Hahn will see you for up to 4 3-hour sessions over the course of 2 days, ensuring there is plenty of time to clear the issue and down time for you to process what has happened.

Sessions must be booked in advance and a phone consultation is necessary. Forms will be sent by email to be completed in advance. Teletherapy and Skype are not available as they are less effective and Mrs. Hahn is committed to giving you the very best service and clearing your issue completely the first time.

To schedule your sessions, call 954-612-9553 and speak directly with Mrs. Hahn.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation. Follow Autumn on Twitter and Facebook.

Rapid Resolution Therapy® and Rapid Trauma Resolution® were developed and founded by Dr. Jon Connelly, LCSW, PhD. More information is available at www.cleartrauma.com and www.rapidresolutiontherapy.com. 

Thursday, July 11, 2013

Changes with Clear Mind Group

What's new with Clear Mind Group? So much good stuff.

Available
My first book, Mini-Missions: Simplify and Add Joy to Your Life in Less Than 30 Minutes is now available on Nook eReader as of today at Barnes and Noble. If you prefer your books in print or you use Kindle as your eReader, you can pick up Mini Missions at Amazon.

Moved
The office location moved in the past 2 months. I'm still in Weston and just 1 complex over from the old office, so your commute time will not change at all.

Growing
Marketing efforts are going well; progress and motion are my new middle names. I always appreciate your referral as it means a lot more that someone found me from their friend or family member that I helped than found me in the phone book. (Do they still make phone books?)

Writing
I'm on track to publish my parenting book next month. The focus is on how to keep your kids from becoming victims of trauma, so it's a different angle from other parenting books you may have read. This makes a great gift for new parents and is written in small chunks that can be picked up and put down for the sort of blocks of time that busy parents have. Stay tuned for more as that comes closer to release date.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing at Clear Mind Group in Weston, Florida. Call 954-612-9553 for a consultation or to reserve your spot in the evening groups now forming. Follow Autumn on Twitter and Facebook.

Monday, May 20, 2013

Process Groups Forming NOW for June



There is a physiological benefit from the reduction in stress that people receive from regular use of a process group. A process group is an open-forum where one can discuss the week’s issues, vent, seek counsel, get advice, and offer support to others. To facilitate this lowered stress and increased happiness, Clear Mind Group is offering process groups for men and women beginning in June on Wednesday evenings. Please contact Autumn at 954-612-9553 to reserve your seat at our new office in Weston.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist specializing in clearing trauma at Clear Mind Group in Weston and Whole Health Psychological Center West Palm Beach. Please call for a free consultation: 954-612-9553.

Thursday, May 2, 2013

Life Lessons - Guest Blog by Martha Denton


Life Lessons from a Communications Specialist 
a guest post from Martha Denton of The Presentation School

A communications specialist is someone who helps other individuals communicate through writing, presentations, navigate cultural differences, visual graphics and/or presentation coaching.  We either do this through completing these tasks for our clients directly, training them to do it on their own, or some mixture of the two.  I’m one of the rare breeds that do all of the above for presentations.  Sure, a lot of my work involves grammar, margins and talk of software function, but it’s all for the same end: helping one individual be understood by another individual.  In fancy communication specialist lingo, we start that with something called “stakeholder analysis,” which means we walk people through thinking about everyone who could care about that speaking engagement and what it’s like to be in their shoes.  The other big task I help people through is feeling more confident when they speak to other people.  And most importantly, I help people avoid this statement, “Wait, no, you didn’t understand me.  That’s not what I meant.” 

In my work, there are some life lessons that I've learned that I try to integrate into my
life all the time.  Lessons that I think anyone could benefit from, especially anyone who wants to feel more connected to other people in a more authentic manner.
  1. Think before you speak.   If you’re about to say something that you know will have a huge affect on the person you’re speaking to, think about the wording.  Try not to insult them.  Find the right tone for what you really mean (firm but kind, supportive, boundary setting, etc.)
  2. Put yourself in the other person’s shoes.  Think about how they like to communicate, it can be revealing.  Sometimes just going through the exercise of wondering what it’s like to be the other person can help you find compassion for them.
  3. Good posture goes a long way.  There are various studies that have been done that prove that standing up straight will help you appear more confident.  There are even a few studies that have found that good posture changes your brain chemistry so you actually feel more confident.
  4. Repeat questions that you don’t understand.  When facilitating a group, I suggest that facilitators repeat the question they hear in a way that more of the room could understand.  This is worth doing with your loved ones, too, especially if you’re emotionally charged up and are trying to calm your system down.
  5. Rehearse tough talks. Definitely rehearse your presentations so you can go into autopilot when on stage (we never know what can happen during a presentation).  It can also work for tough things you need to tell people.  Say it out loud; see how your message sounds.  Maybe you’ll realize you’re saying something offensive.  You’ll also gain some practice in saying tough things so it’ll be easier to stay calm the next time you need to deal with your issues.
  6. Look people in the eye. When giving a presentation, it helps you connect with your audience.  It also helps you connect with whomever you’re speaking with.  Avoiding eye contact can make you look shady.  We don’t want to be shady with our loved ones, do we?
Hopefully these tips can help you communicate with your loved ones more authentically and effectively.  We all know that can help us feel happier!


Martha Denton is the Founder of www.ThePresentationSchool.com, a communications consultancy that helps individuals plan, write, design and deliver presentations more effectively.  She also designs infographics.  Some of her clients include major companies, non-profits and startups like: McKinsey & Company, The Economist, VF Corporation, Legolas-Media, and NYRR.  You can follow her on Twitter at @marden928 and @presoschool

Monday, February 25, 2013

Bad Commercial

If you watched the Superbowl this year, or any TV since then, you've seen the Kia ad where the small child in the backseat asks his parents where babies come from. If you have not seen the commercial, click HERE.
Adorably fluffy animals are jettisoned from planet Baby through space, and land miraculously in their parents car via the sunroof. You must opt for the sunroof at an additional price if you are trying to conceive, I suppose.

When the child asks a follow up question to his parents' ridiculous tale, he is cut off, drowned out, and his attention redirected to a children's sing-along-song.

I hear you thinking, "So what's the big deal, Autumn? It's adorable. And who wants to talk to their kid about where babies come from anyhow? That's uncomfortable!"

Here's the big deal: Children who feel their parents are unwilling to discuss things related to their body and sexuality are less likely to discuss their body and sexuality with their parents. That makes sense, right?

Let's take it a step further: Children who are sexually abused or molested and desire to tell a trusted adult will not tell an adult who the child believes is uncomfortable discussing their body or sexuality. This child is more likely to be victimized over and over again by the same or multiple persons. This is why I'm writing a book on how to keep your child from being a victim of trauma; look for more on that this summer.

The parents in this commercial dropped the ball on this issue and Kia has done an incredible disservice to their commercial's viewers. The parents had a natural opportunity to correct their child's possible misinformation without having to sit down and make a production out of having "the talk" and could have simply taken it in stride, answering his question in an age-appropriate fashion. Or, the child may have already been abused and was trying to tell his parents, only to be drowned out by music as if what he had to say was unimportant. What would happen to that child? He's be sent back to his friend's house and the same thing would occur, but he would know his parents didn't want to hear it.

Oh, I know, it's just a commercial. But I believe that social change is slow and we have to begin at some point. Please take no parenting advice from Kia. Talk to your kids in an age-appropriate way every time the situation naturally occurs and in between. Your discomfort will lessen over time. No one guaranteed you parenting was easy, but you chose this. Keep the door open and allow your child to come to you with anything, no matter how uncomfortable it may be for him or you. This can only help your relationship over time and reduce the chances of trauma or re-traumatization.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist specializing in clearing trauma at Clear Mind Group in Weston and Whole Health Psychological Center West Palm Beach. Please call for a free consultation: 954-612-9553.

Wednesday, February 13, 2013

Self Publish a Book

I published my first book, Mini-Missions: Simplify and Add Joy to Your Life in Less than 30 Minutes last year. I'm always in the state of writing a book or two, or three. I'd been bad about finishing them, until Mini-Missions. Once done, it was a bit of a learning curve to know what to do next. Having done it once, I'm certain that when I publish my next one (a parenting primer, by the end of this summer), it'll be much easier. I want to take the pressure off of you in your publishing endeavor and am posting this tutorial for you, the writer and aspiring author. If you come across other tips or sites that were helpful to you, please share them in the comments section below!

I published on Amazon, and everything herein will refer to that process. I do plan to release my book at Barnes and Noble, but since I haven't done that yet, I won't speak to it.


1) Write your book. However short or long it is, just do it. Get it done. Set aside 10 minutes a day, or work furiously into the night, as is your preference. The following steps should all come after you're finished writing. Cost: Time.

2) Get your ISBN. Protect your intellectual material by buying ISBN numbers. At Bowker Link, a pack of 10 is not much more than buying 2-3 if I recall. The site sucks a little bit, but the cost isn't terrible. You will have to type it into your first pages and the back cover yourself as Amazon doesn't do it for you. So remember to go back and do so before you upload. You can upload your e-copy to their site for extra protection. Enter the ISBN on Amazon's walk through as you publish, so it will be searchable by number, too. There will be a space for it. Cost: $250 for 10 - remember that your digital and paper copies need separate numbers.

3) Be a legal beagle with your images. If you want to use images, make sure they're royalty-free. You can get a free random image each week at Big Stock, and you can buy them here as well, pretty cheap. Just make sure you always choose the biggest size so the print quality is good. I learned that the hard way also and had to purchase a few images twice, so I had the bigger size available. You can also use photos you have taken, which are your property, but if they are of a face, you may need another legal route that shows they gave permission to be printed. Cost: Up to $3 an image.

4) Edit and format. I've read that you should use a serif font (like Times Roman) for your text as it helps the eye glide across the text, but a sans serif font (like Arial) for your chapter heading, sub-headings, and photo captions to make them stand out. Choose only 2 fonts for your book, and don't use Comic Sans for anything, ever, ya novice. Also, don't use underlining as it may not translate well in printing. You can still use bold and italics as necessary, as well as caps when warranted. Learn to spell properly, use grammar properly, and/or be prepared to pay an editor to fix your book for you so it sounds educated and readable. For example: The Hunger Games, which has a great story, is written horribly and consists almost entirely of sentence fragments. People who do know how to write well will think you are an idiot if you write like this and may (as I did) feel the need to get the audio book instead.

For some tips on formatting your book before you  attempt to upload it, try this eBook by Jake Taylor, which you can get for Kindle, in fact, it runs on free promotions now and again, so you might get it for free, also. Cost: $3

If your use of language is not so great, and that's okay, pay an editor. You might even look for a retired editor or retired teacher or someone looking for part-time freelance work like that to save a few bucks. Remember all that stuff in school about how English was important and you said "When am I going to need that?" Well... Cost varies by editor. I would expect to pay between several hundred dollars and a couple of thousand dollars, depending on the state of your work, the length of the text, and whether or not you have it typed or handwritten. 

Note: I've taken for granted that you have typed your book in word processing software to save you and your editor a ton of work.

5) Upload your material. Watch this free webinar by Denise Wakeman and Daniel Hall, and hit pause as often as you need to do stuff. It's a little convoluted. Having done it once the hard way, let me highly suggest that if you plan to release an eBook as well as a printed copy, that you do the printed first. I did it the other way around and it took a lot of extra time to format. If you do a print book, they will send you a digital e-formatted copy you can simply upload. Cost: 0

You will also be creating your cover at this time. Think of what the dust jacket will say about you, the author, as well as get the reader's attention. It should hint at the age-range of your target audience, who the book will appeal to, and why the reader needs this in his/her life. Remember to include the ISBN on the back cover. Keep your colors simple. Keep your fonts easy to read. Ensure that your photos are royalty free or are your property.

This stage also includes pricing. Price the book cheaper in digital format than in paper, as it's cheaper to produce that way. Choose a price that seems reasonable for similar books of that type and is not too low as to seem value-less, but not too high as to be cost-prohibitive. My first book is a small book and I priced it accordingly. My next book will have a completely different price as it's a different category, different length, and offers more substance. However, it will still be affordable to my target audience. Amazon will direct deposit your royalties periodically, and the results of your sales are recorded in a monthly spreadsheet for you. Keep copies of this for tax purposes as it is income.

6) Review. Check and double check and triple check to see if the pages line up right, that your margins are looking spiffy, that your every little thing looks just so. You're going to learn what a "bleed" is - the space between the edge of the page and the place where text starts, that could include glue for the binding, white space, and margins. Once you learn this stuff, it's easy and you won't forget it for next time. Amazon's program is very good, and once you upload, you only have to wait 2-24 hours before it's ready to view. Don't tell anyone it's up until after you've reviewed it, fixed it, and reviewed it again.You want customers (and family and friends) seeing the final version. Check it out on the computer, on your Kindle, change the size and such on your Kindle and see if it still translates, and order a paper copy, too. Plus, your parents are going to want one. Cost: Price of your book, minus royalties

7) Claim your space. Now that you have signed up, free, with Kindle Direct Publishing, claim your name on Author Central. Anyone can type in simple information (mine is: www.amazon.com/author/autumnhahn/) and get to your page, listing all of your publications. Amazon will automatically link your books for you to your Author Central page, which is handy. You'll want to add a professional photo here, or have a friend who is good with a camera take one that looks professional. You have a lot more space here than on the dust jacket to talk about your writing style, who you cater to, and that sort of thing. Cost: 0

8) Offer autographs. People love to feel special! Although they bought the Kindle version, they may still like a "signed copy" of your book. Use Authorgraph, a free service, to create a virtual signature, saved as a PDF for your readers. You'll get an email whenever someone requests an autograph and you can personalize each one, or keep a stock signature on file, changeable at your whim. Cost: 0

9) Make an audio book. Because some people really like to listen to their books, and this is a whole other demographic you can market to, as well as the visually impaired. Remember that you need a separate ISBN for this format. More information is here. I haven't done this yet, but I'm sure it's free, minus the use of an ISBN. Cost: 0

10) Enjoy! You wrote and published a book. You've gone from writer to author and it hardly cost you a thing. Enjoy that. Look how few people get to this step, but you did! And hey, link your book in the comments section below and tell everyone that you did it, and they can, too. That first royalty check (even if you're the only one that bought it) is so fun to receive. And when you look back at last year's taxes and see how much you made in book sales, it's amazing. Plus, that never stops being available. You've put something into the world that will be around as long as libraries, and every reader loves a library.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist practicing in South Florida. She is also the author of Mini-Missions: Simply and Add Joy to Your Life in Less Than 30 Minutes and is working on 3 other books, 1 to be released this year on parenting techniques to keep your child from becoming a victim of trauma.

Thursday, February 7, 2013

Avoidable Death

Two weeks ago, a dear friend of mine died of cancer. He had smoked cigarettes for over a decade, and by the time he realized there was a problem, he had stage 4 throat cancer. Stage 4 if the highest stage and he went through chemotherapy and radiation to destroy the cancer. They got it all. He quit smoking, cut his drinking back a lot, and focused on what mattered most to him - his business, his friends, and living healthy. The treatment, including biopsies of his throat, caused him to lose his hair, feel miserable, have difficulty swallowing, lose interest in the taste of food, and lose more weight than he could afford to on his frame.

About a year after all his treatments, it was discovered that the cancer had spread to his lymph nodes and brain. I'm told his last weeks were miserable and he raged against life itself in an effort to make peace with his situation. He was in hospice for a few days and died quickly, as was expected. He was in his early 40s.

This man was in my life for nearly a decade. He walked my mother down the aisle at my wedding. He came and talked with my husband and me after his marriage started to fall apart. He told us of his dreams to open his own barber shop and how, without needing to support anyone else, he could finally chase his dream, and he made that dream a reality.

He was, and I shall remember him as being, full of life: dancing, singing off key songs about his daily activities like "I'm cooking eggs," smiling, working the trebuchet at the Renn Faire, playing midnight bocce ball in the back yard, and having intense conversations about life and love and the meaning of it all. This is who he will always be to me. I loved him and I love him still. He was my friend and I was honored to be his and to share even a little bit of his life, and have him share in mine.

He died the day before my anniversary. It is our tradition to watch our wedding video on our anniversary each year. This year, we were with friends who were also there, and who also loved him. We watched the video together, saw him being silly and funny and loving and...just being himself. I cried. We all had a moment. We said, "That's who he was, who he is," and we toasted him.

I don't talk a lot about myself in this blog. I don't tell clients personal things very often because I generally feel there's no place for that, but this story, I felt needed to be heard.

I want to tell this story because this early death was completely preventable. Had he not chosen to smoke cigarettes, he'd still be in my life and I in his. Us friends, and his mother, we'd have no sense of missing him, because it could have been avoided. I implore you: DON'T SMOKE. If you smoke, quit by any means. I don't mind if you use my services, the patch, cold turkey, or any way you choose, but take this message to heart. Don't smoke. Don't let anyone else smoke. Tell someone you care about that you don't want to lose them, to sob, to miss them, that you value them too much to sit by and watch them put themselves in harm's way, and for what?

In honor of my friend, I'm running a discount on smoking cessation. $400 for 5 hours, which includes the intake session and phone consultation. Please, for the love of those around you, if not for yourself and all the amazing things you've yet to do, call me to discuss this. Details are listed in This Blog, as is the image of the signed frame we made for my friend, which was set next to his ashes at his sending off.

Autumn Hahn is a Licensed Mental Health Counselor and Certified Clinical Hypnotherapist at Clear Mind Group in Weston and Whole Health Psychological Center West Palm Beach. Please call for a free consultation: 954-612-9553.

Friday, January 11, 2013

Little Shifts

Sometimes, it's the little things.

I keep a lot of bookmarks on my computer, organized into folders. One is called Hobbies. Under Hobbies, I have links to bookstores, craft sites, video game tips, all sorts of things.

I used to have a sub-folder called Publishing under Hobbies. This was even after I published Mini-Missions last year. Publishing contains links to my Author Central page at Amazon,ISBN numbers I've purchased, stock photo sites, and all the sorts of things I need to work on my books. I've been dipping into that folder from time to time lately as I work on Bubble Wrap Your Kids, my next book.

Every time I opened up Hobbies / Publishing, I would say to myself "This is not a hobby, it's part of my occupation. I'm an author." Indeed, although I find writing pleasurable, it is not what I do as a hobby. I separate my work-time from my free-time and treat them differently. I work toward publishing, setting aside time to do that each day, as I do counseling, public speaking, and my side projects. At "quittin' time," I do other things, things in my Hobby folder.

A couple of weeks ago, I got sick of telling myself that I don't find Publishing to be a Hobby and moved the sub-folder to the main folder, so Publishing is no longer under anything at all. Now, and because it's new and I'm conscious of it, every time I go in there, I say "That's better." I'm sure this will fade and I'll forget I ever even had it buried.

Sometimes it is how you do what you do. And sometimes, it is simply what you do. Make small changes in your life that will lead to big shifts in how you behave and think.

Autumn Hahn is a licensed mental health counselor and certified clinical hypnotherapist practicing in South Florida. For an appointment or consultation, please call 954-612-9553.